So you’ve recognized your fuel tanks are running low and you’re in need of some self-care. That’s great! What sort of self-care do you need right now?
Are you in need of distraction? If so, fluffy movies and a night out with your friends is perfect.
Or do you need to take care of business? If this is the case, distracting yourself is only going to make the matter worse. Don’t use self-care as an excuse to avoid doing what your body really needs.
“A couple of bottles of red wine on a Friday night is my self-care. It numbs me out. After all that I’ve been through this week, you can’t begrudge me a little fun.”
“I’d had such a bad day. Nothing was going to work except my favourite ice-cream. I probably shouldn’t have eaten the whole tub in one sitting but, hey, I did say it was a *really* rotten day.”
“I’m exhausted. I know I said I’d meet up with my friends for an after work drink, but I’m just too buggered. This is the third time I’ve cancelled, but they’ll understand. They know what my work is like and they know how important it is for me to take time out for self-care.”
Your body doesn’t need large quantities of wine, ice-cream and social isolation, so stop trying to convince yourself that it does.
Self-care isn’t always light, fun and comfortable. It isn’t necessarily what you want, but it is what you need. Instead of reaching for whatever brings you short-term pleasure, take a moment to listen to your body and put together a plan based on what you really need.
Maybe you need a cheerleader who can give you some tips on how to be assertive?
Maybe you need to develop a few more interests outside of work?
Maybe you need to be honest – with yourself? With somebody else?
What is something you can do to care for yourself right now?